Keynote 01: Please Don’t Ask Me to Forgive You! A Radical Approach to Healing Infidelity and Other Interpersonal Wounds
It’s been said that marriage is bliss, but it can also be a source of trauma. After an affair, how do couples move from hate and hurt to genuine forgiveness? How much work takes place inside the heart and mind of the hurt partner, and how much is earned through concrete steps taken by the unfaithful partner? What makes for a good apology? What is the job of the hurt partner in fostering forgiveness? Can partners forgive and divorce? Is it possible to heal without forgiving? Is it possible to forgive partially and rebuild a good life together? These are some of the questions that will be addressed in this keynote.
- Differentiate “forgiveness” as it is traditionally defined versus “acceptance”.
- Reframe and de-shame the personal meaning of an interpersonal wound.
- Demonstrate learning of teaching each partner to acknowledge a fair share of responsibility for the injury.