Workshop 04: After the Affair: Rekindling Trust and Intimacy, and Earning Forgiveness
This course will offer concrete clinical interventions to help couples struggling with infidelity and address questions such as: What constitutes an affair – sexual intercourse? Sexting? What makes cyber-relationships particularly seductive? When is cybersex a sign of sexual addiction? Is there room for secrets in couples therapy, and if so, how can a therapist create a safe place for each partner’s rigorous honesty and self-scrutiny? How do attributes, which originally attracted us to our partner, become targets of our contempt? How can we help partners decipher the meaning of an affair in ways that shed light on their vulnerabilities and longings? How can this meaning be used to grow the marriage? What concrete exercises help couples rekindle trust and erotic intimacy after an affair? How can partners work to reconcile and recommit, even when they don’t yet feel very loved or loving?
- Describe an open secrets policy that helps couples and therapists manage secrets in couples therapy.
- Specify what makes cybersex so appealing and addictive.
- Describe an exercise to rekindle trust after an affair.